I lied to my mom twice. Once I still have in my knowledge and she does not know–the other time she found out and it was the only time I was ever grounded.

I was grounded for two weeks.

She believed in honesty and was herself, very consistent honest. Even to the small details. She is my mentor in this respect.

I told the young man I work with today that I appreciate honesty much more than any stories. I think it sunk in a bit–though our relationship is currently not as strong as it once was due to his “trust bank” being lower than before with me.

I did see the article and think it is a wonderful story. Thanks for sharing!

I hope you employ all your restorative skills, and process the situation to a positive outcome.

Did you see this article on the social worker believing in a young man, and that young man is now an Restorative Justice facilitator? I’ll forward it to you! : )

I like your twitter and facebook buttons!

Hope all is well!

Kris

In a restorative mindset and practicing “with” actions there are no objects.

Within this context there would be no person “we wish to restore.” Simply, we act “with” everyone and everything. In this sense people may choose to act in any quadrant they wish and those of us who really practice a restorative mindset work “with” them, wherever they are.

True, I can only control my choices, actions, and beliefs, not yours or anyone else.

The “with” actually plays into much more of community going beyond simply restoring harms done. The restorative mindset also builds and maintains relationships.

Thanks for the dialogue Galynn.

First, one must confess that they have done wrong and then one must truly desire to be restored to community.

We cannot control another’s choices or actions. We can only instill a sense of morality; a knowledge of right and wrong, good and evil.

Then we are prepared to move from anarchy or slavery into responsible community.